Dad and Son getting to know eachother

Dear Son,
Your mom and I are watching game one of the World Series. The Sox lead the Rockies two to nothing. I am so excited to be sharing this experience with you. You know based on these blog entries that I love baseball. I can't wait for you to tell me what it is that you like because I want to enjoy it with you. Thank-you for being our son.

Dad

99 bottles of… oh, uh, days left.

Hi PunkieKid,

I checked the ticker today and I am but should not be surprised, after all, I checked it on Monday and it said were 101 days away from our due date, so of course today we are 99 days away. (That’s subtraction. 101 days minus 2 days is 99 days). So why am I in shock? I guess it’s the fact that we are now into the double digits. As Steve Martin says in Father of the Bride II, “the stork is circling the neighborhood.”

101 days left

Hi Little One,
I read last night that you are still between one and two pounds, and that this month is the month you'll be most active. After this, you'll get cramped in there - close quarters. But the most amazing thing is that according to our "Due Date Ticker" (on another website), you're going to be here in approximately 101 days. I could probably come up with structured goals related to you to fill every one of those days, but alas, I must structure my days around law and policy and other esoteric thoughts that seem so unrelated to what I'm mostly interested in these days. I met with my ADD coach today and she encouraged me to focus as much of my energy as possible on getting my course work finished because she warned (rightly) that as you get closer, it will be harder and harder, and eventually, nearly impossible to think of anything but you. I know she's right, so I'll return to the article I'm reading - "Parents as Fiduciaries" - but as I read, you will grow and soon we get to meet you!!!

Love,
Mom

From PunkieDaddy

Hey Little Man,
Just wanted to update you. The Sox beat the Indians 9-2 and are headed to the World Series to play the Colorado Rockies. It was an exciting game in which the Sox completed a three game winning streak. They came back from a 3-1 deficit to win the series 4-3. This was a special series for me because the year your mother and I met was the year the Sox came back from a 3-0 deficit to beat the Yankees 4 games to 3. Therefore, your mother and I have decided that the Sox are our American League team. We hope to take you to a Boston Red Sox game someday. You can look forward to a Cubs game next summer with your mom and dad, your grandparents on my side (they say they're going to go by Lolly and Big G), and your cousins, Linda and Mike.

That's all for now. You are always in my heart.

Love, Dad

From PunkieDaddy

Hey Dude,
It's game seven of the American League Championship Series and the Sox are up one to nothing over the Cleveland Indians. Thought you'd want to know.

Love, Dad

A Saturday in our shared life

Good Morning PunkieKid,

Yesterday was a big day for busyness and fun. I went to the fair in the morning with a good friend. She is also expecting a baby, so she wasn’t disappointed that we couldn’t go on any rides. Instead, we walked around and looked at the craft shows, flower shows, and my favorite, the farm animals. We stopped for a funnel cake for me and a milkshake for her. Mostly we just chatted. It was really nice.

Perhaps the most wonderful part that came from the fair yesterday was the knowledge that my friend will soon be very publicly pregnant too. She’s starting to show a tiny bit, though no one who didn’t know her well and wasn’t looking anyway could tell. She looks amazing. She’s glowing and radiant, but still carrying a tiny, tiny secret. She’s only gained one pound in her entire first 12 weeks of pregnancy. I can’t believe it. I think gained a pound the first day I was pregnant. Oh well, these things can’t (or really shouldn’t) be compared. We’re all just too different.

You are going to grow up with her baby. I’m in school with her husband and she’s looking at Ph.D. programs in the area (as am I), so her child is very likely to grow up with you, at least for the first several years of your life. When we finish with each stage of baby clothes, each baby contraption (car seats, playpens, etc) we’ll likely hand them off to her. I’m already at the stage that maternity clothes have stopped fitting (or it’s now clear that they’ll never fit this body type of mine) and it’s time to hand them off to my friend. We’ll babysit for one another. We’ll confide in and support each other.

I love that we’re so close in gestational age, and that her child will be your friend. I love that we can gripe about sciatica to each other and that soon we’ll celebrate both your kicks and her baby’s kicks together. I love that your dad and I aren’t pregnant alone anymore. It’s so good to have community in pregnancy – with all the fears and new experiences it brings.

In the afternoon, I sat ate some lunch while your dad followed football scores simultaneously on both the internet and TV. It is very important in this house that we know how the Gamecocks are doing, but we have too many screens in this place. In case you’re interested, though, they lost to Vanderbilt, by the way, in a classic Gamecocks way. That is, according to your dad, they lost to an athletically inferior team because of they are systemically, perennially intellectually stunted. After a quick nap, we dashed off to Don’s for some more pregnancy photography. You’ll see images from that when Don gets a chance to process them, but it’ll have to wait for now because Don’s off to Houston in the morning.

Have a good day kid, and I’ll fill in you more sometime soon.

Love, Mom

At 20 weeks it was pretty obvious that you were in there.

Hi PunkieKiddo,
This is from five weeks ago - 20 weeks - and there was no doubt at all that you were in there. Below is more of me and your dad five weeks ago - it was the middle of the second trimester and we were anxiously awaiting your first kicks. It was a busy time for us and, again, I think you can tell what was going on with us.



I was in moot court mode - feeling strongly analytical, sharp, quick, and somewhat obnoxiously in my head. My sense of humor was on the fritz - that's what happens when I get wrapped up in appellate advocacy. But your dad has a way of curing that for me, as you can probably tell.


Your dad was up to his eyeballs in DSS craziness with families and children exploding and erupting all around. Maybe you can see that we were more tired than before and a little less "in the moment." But no less in love with each other or with you.
When your dad and I are struggling in our work/school lives, we're pretty good about caring for and supporting one another, and this was a time that we were needing to do a lot of that. Perhaps you can see us supporting one another? Or perhaps it's just that I can see it because I lived it with him.


I imagine that parenthood will call on us to support each other quite a bit. That's what I've heard from the wonderful friends and examples your dad and I draw from. I predict that it will also keep my analytical mind busy, but hopefully not obnoxiously so. I wonder, though, whether I'll be able to stay centered and not live too much in my head. I don't really know. I've never had an opportunity to find out. It's just hard for me to imagine hanging out in my head all day when I need to meet the moment-by-moment needs that you present and when I have the privilege of hanging out with you. Babies don't live in their heads - they live totally moment-to-moment. Maybe that's where the learning from your kids starts - learning to live in the moment. Who knows? I look forward to the process of finding out.

I love you,
Mom

Here are some more pictures of the three of us.

Cravings!!

Cravings rock. I have never loved food so much as I do while I'm pregnant. And I crave things so often that whenever I'm not craving anything but I'm hungry, I get out of sorts and feel sort of cheated. The food I craved always tastes so much better.  Today I’m craving an apple and grilled cheese sandwich. Mmmm… I’ll be back. I’m going to get one. … Okay, I’m back. I made the sandwich and I have tomato soup in the microwave. The sandwich is delicious – I put slivered almonds in it as well.

Just now, I saw a post on the blog of another pregnant North Carolinian. She was posting about cravings. I shared a few thoughts with her, which I think I’ll now put down here for posterity. Here are some fun tidbits I've picked up re: the cravings issue. “

First, indulge the craving for chocolate whenever you can! Why? Because according to the pediatrician who runs the Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory at Southpoint Mall (my source for excellent fudge), "mothers who eat lots of chocolate during their pregnancies give birth to babies who laugh and smile more than other babies."

Second, the aversions have an evolutionary purpose. We eat things that are weird for us all the time, but as adults (and even children) we have a much more advanced ability to cope with them than would a fetus. The gag reflex (triggered by both visual and inhaled stimuli) and aversions are our baby's way of communicating to us that the particular food would likely do more harm than good on that particular day.

The cravings, conversely, are an indicator that there's some actual nutritional need that should be filled. Hence, a craving for any of a number of dairy sources might indicate that calcium supplies are low, whereas, an insatiable urge to eat ice-cream and only ice-cream likely indicates that the calcium as well as fat sources are lower than ideal. Chocolate cravings may be related to fluctuating hormones and serotonin.

So, I gleefully follow the advice of the nurse at my OB's, which is that cravings are every bit as much a form of communication as a baby's cry will one day be, and it's my right - neigh, my duty to indulge! Ohhhhh, how I love cravings!”

Now you may wonder, and I may someday wonder when these cravings are gone: what am I craving?

I’ve only had 2 persistent cravings during this pregnancy, and neither of them is for chocolate. My first big craving was for asparagus. Specifically, I crave asparagus coated (and I mean thoroughly coated) in butter and salt. I like it grilled on the George Foreman grill so the ends are nice and crispy. Second, I crave thin crusted delivery pizza with my own blend of toppings on top, which your father has dubbed “the mixture.” Specifically, I take red onion, fresh garlic, and pears, and slice them up pretty thoroughly in the food processor. Then I spread those on the pizza, and add slivered almonds. Then I heat it up a bit so it all blends in together – at least in terms of temperature – and bon appetite! Your father says it gives me dragon breath. Oh well.

 

These are certainly not the only cravings I’ve had. Boy that sandwich was good. Do I want another one? Day before yesterday, I had some really intense dreams about double stuff Oreos, and I HAD to have them. Cravings have come in the form of dreams several times. We’ll see what’s next. Let’s go get a sandwich.

Love, your mom.

Memorializing pregnancy

When I first started trying to memorializing your time inside my body, it was not through a blog, but through pregnancy photography. Your dad and I went to have some pregnancy photos taken for the first time at 15 weeks, then again at 20 weeks, and we're going again this weekend, at 25 weeks.

When we started doing all these photos, I felt hideous, and hence, really nervous. It seemed odd. After all, I have always thought pregnant women were so beautiful, but somehow, when it was me, I found that I didn't - and still don't - feel beautiful at all. When I first started my efforts at journal-documenting the pregnancy (using a different website and less user-friendly blog style) I wrote "I thought I wasn't vain, before, but now I know I just wasn't bothered by anything. These days, I feel fat, bloated, itchy, pimply, greasy-haired, and any number of other awful things."

That's still how I feel most days, and it doesn't help that the number on the scale at the doctor is just absurdly high. Still, I remain committed to this documentation, and the photographer we're working with really helps me to feel good as we work.

After the first session, I wrote "[a]s the day went along, I felt increasingly comfortable in my skin, though decreasingly comfortable in my lower back. That is, I felt good about me, even though my body still hurts and is different than I'm used to. In the end, I'm amazed at how much I like the pictures, considering how lousy I thought I looked at the time. Hormones, yeah?" After the second session, I was in the middle of busy moot court preparation and studies, so I didn't have time to write, but that day I felt just as crummy and I was fighting against a bad mood. Unfortunately, law school isn't my favorite thing in the world and I fight bad moods more and more often these days (today is no exception). But Don took some really good pictures nonetheless. (Sorry, I don't have any of those to post yet).

One thing I hadn't expected when we started shooting these pregnancy photos was how much they would showcase what was really going on with me and your dad throughout the various stages of pregnancy. I think this one really shows how in love your dad and I are with each other and how in awe we were in those first weeks as we started wrapping our minds around the little bump that was just beginning to show. We were going to be parents! We could still hardly believe it.

In this one I think you can see that I was feeling pretty introspective those days, and that I was pretty secure in my own readiness to be a mom. That has come and gone from time to time as the time draws nearer and I realize that there's still so much to do, but in the deepest parts of me, I'm still basically there. I'm just not as amazed by it anymore. I'm still awestruck during still moments, but there aren't as many of those now that I'm in school.

I'm posting several of the pictures Don took at our first session, and for anyone out there reading this who might be looking for a splendid pregnancy photographer , I highly recommend ours - his name is Don Kennedy and you can reach him at don@donkennedyphotography.com. His web portfolio is www.donkennedyphotography.com

I'll post more photos later, but for now, I think this is a pretty good snapshot of the first half of pregnancy. The second half is to come :-)

Big hugs and lots of love,
Your mom

Updating you on your life in utero

Dear little one,

Sorry no news from me and your dad for the last several days. It’s been a really exciting time for our family. You’ve been kicking up a storm, so I kind of wonder if you might already have known what an exciting time it was.

This past weekend, your dad and I went to Macon, GA to see your grandparents and your aunt, Katie. We always sort of assumed that you’d grow up knowing Macon as a home away from home, but now we know that isn’t true. Since I was 12 years old, my parents have lived in Macon. Consequently, I lived there for a number of years, and as an objective observer, I don’t think you’re missing much by missing Macon. You’re going to miss out on some pretty wonderful people though. Since I was about 15, your grandfather has been the rector of St. Francis, a really wonderful congregation. But Friday, your grandfather was elected to be the bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Nevada. That means you aren’t going to know your grandfather to have a congregation and to serve them as their priest – you will know him to have a different professional role. I don't really know what that will mean for you, but it strongly influences where your dad and I are likely to choose to live someday, where you're likely to grow up, and much more. When I was a kid, I could never have imagined how much my father's decision to become a priest would influence my life - but I am essentially southern because he did. It's more important to me and your dad to be near family than it was to my parents, so who knows how this will impact all of us now? It helps that I really like the idea of living out West again (and your dad is intrigued by the idea as well), so it's more likely that we'll wander that way.

Under the heading of “major events in your life,” you got to hear your grandma, grandpa, and aunt’s voices for the first time since (according to the books) you’ve been able to hear in there. Your aunt and grandma got to feel you kick, too. I discovered that I could get you to kick by singing a very low pitch – it worked long enough to let your grandma feel you kick (hard! So cool!), but after that you got bored. I’ve experimented with it several times since then, but it seems that you’ve lost interest. I really enjoyed the game of trying to figure out what I could do to get you to respond – our first primitive attempt at communication. Fun! If you have any inkling in there what I’m writing/saying/thinking out here, I hope you’ll think that was fun and help me figure out how to play some more!

I am becoming huge!!!

I thought I was ready for pregnancy weight gain, but when I got on the scale at the doctor's yesterday, I nearly fainted. I now weigh somewhere between 145-148. Last February I weighed 113. I thought 113 was probably a little thin for me and I resolved to eat more during the high stress semester that it was, but yikes! This is serious. I gained somewhere between nine and 12 pounds in a MONTH.

I talked to my mother last night and I bemoaned the apparently defunct policy I used to have about eating whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and in whatever portion I wanted. It worked for me - I tended to be underweight if anything. So what the holy heck has happened to my metabolism!!!!????!!!! My mother's response? Be grateful for the years I had and get used to living like everyone else - more careful re: what I eat.

Make no mistake about it, I do not like that option at ALL. However, I don't see much of an option. I went on my first intentional exercising trip today. I took Rex for a 1 mile walk - which was lots easier before I weighed so much. It is also much easier when it's not 85 degrees outside. When is fall coming to Chapel Hill?

Reflecting on Pregnancy Thus Far

Evenin’ Beautiful Son,

I got an e-mail this morning from BabyZone informing me that this is the last week of our third trimester together. It tells us about what’s going on with you, and specifically says that this week “rapid eye movements are beginning! [That your] eyes open and shut frequently, and [your] eyebrows and eyelashes are present.”  Can you believe it? It’s been a pretty easy ride so far. I know you didn’t cause any of the easiness or discomfort specifically, but I want to thank you for hanging in here with us. I hope it’s been as comfortable for you.

I’ve heard/read about terrible pregnancy experiences, and I truly do feel so fortunate. The first trimester was a breeze compared to the norm. There were only a few days of nausea, a handful of migraines, and although I was extremely tired, I was blessed with the ability to lie around a lot as I needed to. It was really a pretty blissful experience.

Now, at the end of the second trimester, I realize I’ve remained lucky. I’ve been able to return to school full-time and I’m still going strong. People generally say that the third trimester is pretty exhausting too, so I should probably try to get ahead while I still can, but it really wouldn’t surprise me if the rest of the pregnancy was comparatively smooth as well. The e-mail also tells us that the stretch marks are probably on their way, and I have no doubt you’re growing like kudzoo on a Georgia highway. Last week I was in terrible pain in my upper abdomen – my friend told me she read that the stomach muscles eventually tear when the baby grows enough, and while she thought people ordinarily didn’t feel that, that’s the only explanation I can think of for what was so painful. It was like stretching and bruising all at once. Well, that we can’t do anything about – and wouldn’t want to – we want you to be a healthy sized baby. But the outside is a different story. Your dad and I will have to get on the stick with the cocoa butter. I don’t know how much it’s possible to do to avoid them, but we’re sure going to try!!!

Economic Frustration with Public Education - This is just me studying for Ed. Law

Good morning Kiddo,
 

Your dad and I ponder where we're going to live quite a bit these days (e.g. where should I do a Ph.D., if I do it, what bar exam(s) should I take - if I take bars, etc.) And we consider a number of things in the analysis. We think about where we'll find supportive, loving community; where we'll make an impact with our work; where our family will be; how is the weather (I think about this more than your dad does); and lately, how are the schools?

Where will we send you to school? We don't want to rule out the South just yet, but your father and I both have a strong preference for public education. But we want for you a kind of idealized view of what we think public education should be. For instance, there are a number of societal goals built into the provision of public education - chief among them is to equalize the positions of all people, and that’s simply not happening. In fact, public education looks like one giant meritocracy. Why? Money. In almost all places in the U.S., school resources are based on property tax, and kids in areas with lower tax bases have less opportunity for quality education.  We think that being educated in a racially and socioeconomically diverse environment is ideal and that any education that lacks such diversity is almost guaranteed to be inferior.

However, in the South, it’s harder to commit to. For instance, NC lags behind northeastern schools because the South is poorer in economic resources generally, and also because people in the South are more spread out. In order for NC to raise the same amount of money for public education as does an average northeastern city, we would have to raise 5 times the tax dollars from each citizen than do northeastern school districts. People in NC simply haven't gotten to the place that they can or will relinquish that much investment in the public schools - especially in public schools that are still largely segregated.

In Leandro, the Supreme Court of NC held that every NC child has a right to a sound, basic education, but that doesn’t mean much. It basically just means there have to be schools, and that the schools have to be barely adequate. Call me crazy, or elitist, or just overly optimistic, but as your mother, I want more for you! I want more for every other mother's sons and daughters too - but as I am personally charged with care for you, it really hits home as I think about the direction for this family's path. Still, our preference for public education is so strong, that we are more likely to choose between the North and the South than we are to consider choosing between public and private schools. I hope you like cold weather. I don't :-(

Can you motivate me to study?

Hello Kiddo,

You danced all night. I bet you are tired! I’ve only felt you a couple of times since the sun came up, though. I bet you are sleeping. I’m jealous.

 

Today I am trying to structure the vast world of intestacy law into a cohesive, exam-useful structure, and as I hope I will hide from you for the first couple decades of your life, structure is not my friend. I am taking this course in Trusts & Estates largely because I want to be able to draft a good will and create a good trust to make sure you are cared for in the event that anything should happen to me and your dad – not at all because I especially want to take an exam on it. It’s useful to think of you as a motivating factor in the study, but I know you’re never going to ask for my flashcards (unless you go to law school, in which case, I’ll tell you to find a better source). Maybe I can learn to think of earning a living to support my son as a motivating mechanism to get me more interested in this exam worthy structure thing. It’s worth a try.

I’m also taking an education law course, but that hasn’t turned out to be at all like I thought it would be. I thought it would be a pretty statutory course – “No Child Left Behind” “Individuals with Disabilities in Education Act” etc. But so far, it’s all about your first amendment rights. Since I know absolutely nothing about the first amendment, this is all new to me. I think I’m going to start writing about it though – in case you want to know what your public school teachers can make you do and what it can stop you from doing. When I was in the seventh or eighth grade, I remember realizing that I just don’t believe in saying the Pledge of Allegiance. I still don’t. Can they make you? Tune in for more on that, and other issues of law that relate to your childhood and your father’s and my abilities to support you in your education.

Explaining "Punkie"

One of the words in the title of this blog seems to surprise people. I had no idea how many different meanings the word "Punkie" might have! But according to a good friend, it can mean any of "young, inexperienced person" as well as "prostitute (archaic); in poor health; decayed, crumbly wood; dry, spongy substance prepared from fungi." Those meanings, while fascinating, aren't quite what we had in mind :-) The name comes from an essential part of my relationship with your dad: silliness! We almost never call our dog by his name. This may be because we didn't choose the name, and I, at least, don't really like it. Instead, we call him by any of a large number of pet names that we have constructed in moments of his cuteness or his sociopathy - depending on the day.

On days when Rex is climbing the counter and eating out of the pizza box, after a chorus of "No! Stop! It's unconscionable! It's wrong!" and once his four paws are restored to the ground where they belong, I usually punctuate the event by calling him "Punk!" Then there are most days, when our canine child is his perfectly adorable self, and I call him "Punkin" (a southern pronunciation derived from the English word "pumpkin,") and even "punkin butt" or "punkin head." From this came the shorter "Punkie," and "punkie head." Now that explains how we got the word Punkie, but definately not how we got to be a punkie family.

For this I must refer to a very, very long car trip that your dad and I took from our home in Chapel Hill, NC to our parents respective homes in Bishopville, SC then Macon, GA, and then on to visit our cousins in Wisconsin. Such car rides make us punchy, and when we are punchy we make up songs. Your dad is much better at this than I am. He can make them up on the spot, and they always make sense musically, rhythmically, and usually, they even rhyme. I, however, made up this song. In this song, I sang random pitches which didn't go together in the slightest, and it goes "PunkieRexie, Punkie Bootie (less vulgar and fit better rhythmically than "punkie butt"), Punkie Husband, Punkie Wife." People who hear our song (which delights us immeasurably) roll their eyes and really can't believe we wer'e adults. We sing it all the time. Now, as we grow more accustomed to our new role as parents, the song has morphed into "PunkieMommie, PunkiePapa, PunkieRexie, PunkieSon."

In naming our blog we thought we'd choose something that pointed out that we are pretty darned happy people and don't take ourselves too seriously. Punkie, yeah? So, our family identity - in flux as it may be - is best summed up by this song. We are a PunkieFamily.

Repost - Who are you, little man?

Hello Little Person,
What are we going to call you? It seems like we waited for so long to find out whether you were a boy or a girl, and now that we know (or at least, we think we do), we get to choose your name. Wow. What an awesome responsibility! Whatever name we give you will be with you for your entire life (unless you decide to change it, but that's a big hassle). It seems likely that our choice will impact your identity - both how you are seen by others and how you see yourself. That's why I'm so committed to naming you with four names. For reasons of family politics, we aren't naming you with a hyphenated last name (Edwards-Brown), but I confess, your personal identity is why I've insisted that Edwards not be reduced to a simple middle name. By giving you four names you will at least be reminded that you are made of two families - not just one. I want you to see yourself that way.

But first names are hardest. I wish you could talk. What do you think about Joshua? We like it a lot, but we aren't just smitten with it. I really like Abel Elias Edwards Brown, but your dad is not convinced. Your dad's going favorite is Corinth Gradyn Edwards Brown. We are both persuadable. Also in the running are Andrew and Joseph. The name Corinth Gradyn came to me in a dream when you were only 8 or 10 weeks in the womb. It was a scary dream, but it seemed kind of weirdly prophetic, so that name's still on the list. Then, there's the current leading name - your dad and I both like it a lot. Jonathan "Jonah" Thomas Edwards Brown. What do you think of that? You'd be named for your father, your great grandfather on his side, and your grandfather on my side. Would that give you freedom of identity? Perhaps not entirely - since no name would really give you total freedom of identity, but how about flexible identity? I hope so. I really like that one. It's purely coincidence, but a funny and appropriate one that this alludes to your spending time in the belly of a whale.
10.2.2007

Repost - Tiny, Huge, Wonderful Act of Faith

Dear Little One,
At dinner a couple of months ago, a friend said that it is ultimately an act of faith to bring a child into the world. Regardless of one's financial circumstances, physical health, age, emotional/spiritual maturity, educational status, family support level, or whatever-else have you. She's absolutely right. I occasionally have fears about this - I wonder if we've done a good and responsible thing. I wonder about whether we have enough money; a nice enough house; an old enough relationship; enough knowledge about - how to do it - to be adults, to be parents; and enough healing from our childhood hurts and patterns. The answer to all of these questions is an unqualified "no." We don't have enough money or any house at all, our relationship is young, and we are still figuring out how to be adults and are only beginning to learn how to be parents. No one is ever totally cured of childhood hurts and patterns - vulnerabilities persist. But you are going to be here in approximately 121 days, and I couldn't be happier.

I have faith that with God's grace, your dad and I will be enough. We will shower you with the totally boundless love that we feel for you. And I have faith in our families - that they will fill in gaps where sometimes your dad and I fail. I have faith in our church - that the other wonderful babies will be your friends and that their parents will be our teachers. I have faith in God - that she will guide our paths. And even though we haven't actually seen you, I have faith in you. You are not concerned with the paint on the walls or the fact that the couch still has a faint odor of cat pee. You do not fear failure, as I do, nor do you have unrealistic standards for your parents to live up to. You trust this lady's body to keep you warm for the next 4 months and lo-and-behold, with your trust it is working.

I marvel at you as you grow. I am amazed at how your body is growing inside of mine and despite my usually random wanderings though the world, my lack of perfect nutrition, loads of exercise, or ability to swallow all those omega-3 fatty acids I feel like I should be taking, by every indicator that we have so far, you are perfect.

10.2.2007